Our baby growth guide, great tips from moms.

1. Regular daily routine A baby will cry less if he knows what is going to happen in his day-to-day life. Keeping to the same daily sequence of activities will make him feel at ease: sleeping, waking, feeding (a baby may appear sleepy after being fed, but it is usually just a question of recovery …

Sleep is so Crucial for your kids

In the Netherlands, there is a huge emphasis on the importance of sleep. In the US and the UK, sleep deprivation is considered a rite of passage: Being able to function on a lack of sleep is something to brag about. Not in the Netherlands. Here, it is taken for granted that Nowhere is the …

The Real Happiest Kiddos on the Block.

I’m rocking my newborn, Matteo, swaying back and forth in his great-grandfather’s rocking chair. He’s asleep on my chest. I can’t help but think to myself, He’s such an easy baby. I’m convinced that going Dutch from the start the second time around has contributed to his happy disposition. I long to be like all …

Thr truth about Dutch maternity and baby announcement

“That has never happened, at least in my experience. The moms I have worked with are often grateful and relieved that someone is there to recognize and name what they are experiencing. There is an entire support network in place – their partner, their doctor, the midwife and me. There’s no sense of shame but …

The magic of the UK maternity nurse

The joy of welcoming a new baby in Holland continues once everyone is safely at home. I was looking forward to taking Matteo home, not least because I knew that waiting for us would be our own personal maternity nurse. Here in the Low Countries, getting mothers back on their feet after delivery seems to …

A modern dutch birth

Having been in and out of the hospital over the summer with preterm contractions, at thirty-six weeks I am woken by a gush of water trickling down my legs. Because of being a high-risk pregnancy due to some complications, I’m under the supervision of an obstetrician. With an overnight bag already packed and wiping the …

Birthing tips from Diligent Moms

For my friends, Rob and Gowri, a Dutch-Singaporean couple, Gowri giving birth at home when they had their second child was a way to reassert their control. Written by Rob, the birth announcement read, “In the warm surroundings of our home, Gowri gave birth to Nikki’s lovely little sister, Kira.” I couldn’t resist saying the …

Parenting learning process

I had thought I learned a bit crunchy. After all, I spent my high school and college years in Berkeley, California, the birthplace of the hippie movement. I’m all for having my children sing “Kumbaya” around the campfire, feeding them organic foods and taking them out for regular country walks. But giving birth at home? …

Mothering the Mother

As I anticipate the birth of my second child, I am anxious but resolute. I am going to give birth the way I want to. My birth plan is simple. All I ask is to be sufficiently drugged during the delivery to alleviate the pain and to have another healthy baby in my arms while …

Why Most Parenting Advice is Wrong?

Armed with all the advice I had gathered, I went all out to establish rest and regularity with Matteo. I interpret “regularity” as keeping the pattern of our daily life as regular as possible, and “rest” as ensuring that Matteo sleeps twice during the day and is in bed by seven o’clock every evening. It …